I believe your masculine energy is best cultivated when you do not disown your desires. Be honest with yourself. About where you are in your life, really. About where you want to be. About what you genuinely want to achieve. About the kind of life you feel moved to create.
And then don’t accept anything less than the attitude, posture, and behavior that will turn these possibilities into actualities.
Of course, this requires discernment and examination. It requires you to distinguish between what you actually want, what your innermost needs and desires are, and what advertising has conditioned your brain into being a sucker for.
It requires you to have a deeply examined, truthful idea of the good life for yourself. It also requires you to not be foolish about the ideas that you allow yourself to be influenced by. Let’s talk about an obvious one:
Money.
How does it feel? How is your relationship to it? Does it feel abundant? Are you satisfied with where you are in your career and life’s work? Do you feel generously rewarded for the exceptional contributions that you made to the world?
How do you feel about the contributions you made? Have you made them, fully? Are you currently directing your life towards making them to the best of your abilities?
How do you feel about your intuitive answers to these questions?
The point I’m trying to make here is this: If the answer to any of these questions is anything less than satisfying to you, then DON’T FUCKING DISOWN THAT.
Pay attention to it. Allow yourself to feel frustration about it. Consider how much you care. Allow yourself to care more. Feel the depth of the desire.
Feel the energy at your root and at your core. Feel what it feels like in your chest.
And then consider it, when planning your life. Consider it, when structuring your day. Let it MOVE you.
Masculinity is about directionality. You’re doing things, for reasons, as part of a mission, to get SOMEWHERE SPECIFIC.
Pay attention to every single thing in your life that isn’t the way you’d like it to be. Resolve to make it the way you’d like it to be. DON’T FUCKING COMPROMISE.
This unwavering honesty about what you want and your dedication to attaining it, will help you be in a more honest relationship with yourself, at a very existential level. From here, you can check in:
Does the way I’m approaching my life align with my innermost desires?
Am I living up to my own standards?
Am I adequately skilled to create the reality I want? If not, how can I improve?
If you’re not making the kind of money you want to make, if the kind of women you’re interested in are not interested in you, if you’re uncomfortable with your body, if you don’t have the mobility and opportunities you’d like to have in life… GOOD. What are you going to do about it?
great post welf! resonates a lot